Gay Dads Starting Their Family-Making Process
Hi! We are Brad and Justin from Bristol, Virginia, and we are hoping to grow our family through open adoption. For those who have heard of Bristol before, thoughts of the Birthplace of Country Music or the “World’s Fastest Half Mile” probably spring into their head, but probably not thoughts of a same-sex couple adopting. We hope to give a sneak peek into our life and our adoption journey as we set out together to become dads.
Brad and I both work as flight paramedics on a medical helicopter. Though we both work for the same company, we work at two different bases so we never get to fly together. (Which works out really well as our plan to become dads grows more and more elaborate.)
Brad and I met in 2011 in Norfolk, Virginia at a work conference that neither one of us had initially planned on attending, talk about fate, huh? To be completely honest, that was the first time that Brad and I had officially met face to face, but we knew of each other long before we met. Remember back when AOL Instant Messenger or “AIM” as we all called it was popular? Sounds of doors opening when your friends would sign on or doors slamming shut as they left or that very iconic “ding” as you received messages. We considered ourselves acquaintances, only knowing each other over AIM and I think we were even MySpace friends, too. Either way, we chatted occasionally, mostly about work stuff as Brad was already a paramedic and I had just started paramedic classes, until one evening after I had come home from class. Both of us must’ve had a rough day because our chit chat turned quickly into complaining about one thing or another. And then I put my foot in my mouth and didn’t think before I typed, “You’re complaining a lot.” I said. The next thing I heard was the sound of a door slam shut, but it didn’t come from my apartment, it came from Instant Messenger. That was the last time Brad and I talked until almost 2 years later in Norfolk. We got, and still get, a good laugh out of it. I was full of apologies that night we met and we talked for hours, exchanged phone numbers and the rest is history.
Read more of Brad and Justin's blog for The Next Family here.