To be completely honest, the excitement after our trip to Dollywood and our desire to grow our family was quickly overshadowed with a million and one questions. Where do we even begin? How much will it cost us? What would other people say about us and more importantly, our child? Brad and I would randomly ask each other these questions and never could come up with answers.
We were lucky, you could say, in two ways. First, our very dear friends, Matt and Trey were growing their family just like we wanted to and had matched with a birth mother, so they were well versed in the entire process. Secondly, Brad and I quickly got a case of the “I don’t cares,” but in a good way. We didn’t care what people would say about us raising a child and we vowed to teach our child to be open and accepting of everyone. We didn’t care how much it would cost us, it was too important to us to let that stop us. And we didn’t care what we had to do to make it happen.
At this point in our journey, we had heard a fair amount from Matt and Trey about their adoption process, why they chose open adoption, their thoughts on the agency they chose and how roughly much it cost them, so you could say there was already a slight lean toward adoption from Brad and me. We were encouraged to do our own research, which we did, but for us the choice of open adoption came easily.
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